Plain plus simple. If you desire persons to learn we, truly learn we. If you wish To be unforgettable plus be remembered, because an individual plus leader, then consider intentionally practicing intimacy. Intimacy stands for “in-to-me-see.” To what extent do we allow individuals see into we – by being open enough to share a wants, passions, values, hopes plus dreams?
I was 4, a Minnesotan exploring India. A nearby girl asked me for funds. As a grown up, I understand what this was about, nevertheless at the time I remember being amazed she might think I had cash. My parents had funds, not me. I really desired to play along with her. I thought, “Why is she asking me which? I am a child, simply like she is.” I remember the sensation of her breathtaking eyes about me, plus I somehow knew she wasn’t absolutely seeing me, however seeing anything I represented to her. I felt invisible.
At 15 I invested a semester inside France. Older, yet nevertheless amazed whenever time plus again French adults might speak to me regarding American politics inside a technique which was obvious I represented the US government for them. I felt clearly because they talked which I was being looked at because when I were personally accountable for the President’s actions. Again, the disconnect plus distinct feeling of not being watched for that I am.
As an adult, I observed which even persons close to me had no idea of what to receive me for my birthday, vs. the persons whose interests are well-defined to everyone. It dawned about me which my intense interest inside getting to learn folks created me a excellent listener, however less wise at reciprocating thus which individuals saw in-to-me. Folks not recognizing what I might like because a present had been a symptom of my shortage of sharing enough of me. I need individuals to absolutely understand me – my interests, challenges, plus thoughts. I wish those to feel really connected to me instead of merely understanding of me or regarding me. What of we do we want more individuals might understand plus see? What might the difference be in the event you didn’t hold it back?
As pre-work for a peer mentoring leadership round I led at a health device organization for Cheryl Alexander & Associates, you read Ubuntu, by Nelson plus Lundin. This book introduces an African greeting meaning “I am here to find we plus be enjoyed by we.” Imagine the individual plus leader you every might become when you enter into each interaction suggesting to ourselves “Ubuntu,” because a reminder to be open, present plus focused about equally “seeing” the different individual plus being completely “seen.”
Tamara Sulistyo, COO, Cheryl Alexander & Associates, Inc.